Ways to Practice Your Active Listening Skills in Every Conversation

Active Listening Skills in Every Conversation (Image Source: Shutterstock)

What is Active Listening?

Have you ever been talking to someone and lost the thread of the conversation? I have. Sometimes you might even zone out and only pretend to listen. But even when you are not interested in a conversational topic, practicing your listening skills can pay off big. Building better listening skills when it’s hardest to listen will increase your skill level even faster.

Active listening skills make it easier to get the most out of your conversations. (Image Source: Shutterstock)

Listening Skills: Why Should You Care?

Would you like to be more persuasive and popular? Active listening creates a safe space where everyone can feel heard. People like attention, and they appreciate you more when you treat them like their time is valuable and they have something important to say.

The Art of Listening | Simon Sinek

How to Practice Active Listening Skills in Every Conversation

Active listening can help you learn how to build a strong relationship. It’s also easy to do. All it takes is a little bit of preparation and practice to become an expert.

  1. Put down your phone.
  2. Make eye contact.
  3. Provide encouragement.
  4. Ask relevant questions.

Put Down Your Phone

When you’re in a conversation, how can the other person tell that you are paying attention?

Make Eye Contact

Once your phone disappears, turn your body to face them and make eye contact. Sipping on a drink is a good way to keep your hands busy so you can keep your eyes focused on the speaker.

Provide Encouragement

Offering encouraging statements and making hand gestures will show you understand and are interested. If you smile and nod your head from time to time, it will encourage them to say more.

Offer encouraging statements. (Image Source: Shutterstock)

Ask Relevant Questions

You can become a more active listener by asking relevant questions to help focus the direction of the conversation. If they say something particularly important, you might want to ask, “Can I repeat this back to you to make sure I got it right?” You’ll find questions like this useful, and most people will appreciate the care you are taking with their words.

Active Listening Skills Improve Your Reputation

I will sometimes give the book, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, as a gift to someone I care about. It really is a must-read. It can teach you how to be a better listener, and it has many other valuable lessons, too. I re-read it every few years because I learn more every time I do. I use the skills it teaches in every conversation I have because it makes me a better friend and helps me show that I really care.

Practicing active listening skills on a regular basis is a good idea. (Image Source: Shutterstock)



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